While out braving the public at nine months pregnant, everyone smiles at you. Asks how you're feeling. When you're due. Whether it's a boy or girl.
Now they ask how old he is. But there are also sympathetic glances - those are from the other mothers who recognize the weary expressions. Sometimes it's the comments from those who have been in the trenches whether they be friends, strangers or just in a blog post that keep me going.
Here are some favorites to hopefully encourage you, too.
When Reality and New Mommyhood Collide
"There are going to be times when you feel like you don’t rock. Moments
when you wonder what the hell you were thinking when you threw away
those birth control pills. Days when you’re pretty sure that you suck at
being a mom.....You can do this. You will do this. It won’t always be fun, but it will be worth it. I promise."
"I swear under my breath as I fold yet another load of onesies. The
house is in chaos around me. Dishes haven’t been done in days, the
carpet is buried under a layer of pet fur and dirty burp cloths are
strewn everywhere I look. Just as I finish, a scream breaks through the silence, and I tiredly
trudge up the stairs for the 15 bazillionth feeding of the day. I
fervently wish my mommy would come and save me."
Letter to a Tired New Mom
"...day by day, dirty onesie by dirty onesie, wet wipe by wet wipe, you are
building your legacy — something that will outlast your life. You are loving someone well, and in the process, loving God well. I struggle to think of a better use of your time.."
"It’s a huge adjustment, this mommy thing. Not sleeping, caring for
another human, having them attached to your chest every two hours or so
all day and night. I wanted to write this post to let those who are
going through it now, have been there or will go through it eventually
know that it’s OK. And it’s normal! And it will pass. And it was hard for me too."
And from my friends, tweets and random acquaintances:
"Sometimes the hardest part is in those moments before
you finally admit to yourself that you are overwhelmed and need some
help. It's all so hard on your body, and then nursing as well. I know
the hormones are awful, I cried at everything. I can laugh at it now
but at the time it was so difficult."
"It's like everything around you is going so great and you have so much
to be thankful for but you can't help but tear up and be sad at times.
My daughter is 5 weeks and I will tell you IT GET'S BETTER!"
"I'm sure the last few weeks have been so hard on you - can you even
imagine what its like for people who don't have as strong of a marriage
and love for each other?!? Obviously I'm not a mom (or dad - ha!), so
have no encouraging words like "it will get better". All I can say from
one newlywed happily in love wife, to another happily in love couple,
cherish each day and the love you have for one another. "
"I hope you know you are not alone. We've all been there. And it sucks. But it will get better. It will."